Okay, I'm fully aware how cheesy this is all going to sound. I'm in my twenties, and I'm a hopeless romantic. I don't think my position on this changed at all, as far as I can remember. My nougat center has only been reinforced by my current relationship, and that of the people I know and admire.
So here is the confession: I often read the Craigslist "Missed Connections" and the Love/Hate section of the Philly Citypaper. It's not that I'm waiting for some random moment of serendipity of memories, relationships, or crushes of yesterday. I really just want them to find their people. Most of the posts are people either too nervous to work up the courage to say how they really feel, and I know that feeling. Some are pining away for someone they can never be with. I know that one too! A few are even addressed to the ever infamous "one who got away." I had a few get away, and in my non-expertise, if they got away, it wasn't right. The right person, the right time...reminds me of a song.
Anyhow, sometimes I get so cynical and jaded when it comes to issues, I forget that I'm a hardcore optimist. I'm not delusional: I don't think everyone will live happily ever after in a utopian, equal and fair society. I just think that they should, and could.
I'm not saying (my) life is or should be like some romantic comedy. It sometimes just amazes me that in a world of billions, and not willing to settle for "happy enough," I managed to find someone to be truly happy with. I'm not sure how long this "honeymoon" phase will last, or if that's what this is, but I'm in love, and it's pretty fabulous.
If you haven't found someone you're looking for, for whatever you're looking for, keep going. Don't be bitter at others' happiness. When other people are happy, be happy for them, and know that love is a thing. That's what worked for me. Plus, bitter people are usually creepy.
Peace, Love, and Rock&Roll,
Shayna
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